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  Had Dinner with my Daughter

  by Undecided in

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  my paternal daughter is going to college to learn to do sonograms.

  she has finished her schooling for xray and likes sonograms better.

  she is married and seems happy.

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  Wounded Heart

  hi Ken,

  i really enjoyed reading you express your feelings about your daughter and how you tried to express them to her. would it be possible for you to express these feelings in a card and mail them to her? or maybe you could print out a copy of this post and send it to her? as a daughter of a father who never expressed himself (til mom died 8yrs ago), i must tell you that it would be a treasure for your daughter to know how you feel. when mom died, she left my bro, dad & i, strangers really, alone to deal with each other. we had to force ourselves to learn how to express our feelings to each other. it took time but it is time well spent. i know from experience. i always knew my dad loved me. but, well, it certainly doesnt hurt to hear him say how much and why and so forth ya know? its the same between my brother and father. they had to learn to express themselves to each other too. actually, to clarify, we had to learn to express ourselves beyond "i love you". my brother and i were fine with each other. but with our dad, well, he never really talked to us. we knew he loved us, but it was just words really. now its more. weve always been huggy, "i love you" people--just the way our family is. but now we really communicate. anyway, i just wanted to share my experience with you. and truly, if i was your daughter, and you, say, emailed this post to me, id print it out for the world to see. congrats for having such a wonderful daughter! you obviously did a great job! keep up the good work!

  Kat
  Wounded Heart

  Love by giving to & accepting others unconditionally = true, pure love

  "When in doubt, do the loving thing." ~ 8yr old "Pirate"
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  Toilet Seat Up Or Down??????

  by ladonna in

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  we have no problems in our relationship about the toilet seat.

  but others seem to make a big deal as to whether the guy should leave it down for us ladies.. what's your take on this?

  take into account ladies that if a man puts it down, and we leave it down, he has to always be putting it up.

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  Wounded Heart

  everything definitely down. because ewww! on animals drinking out of it! plus it looks best overall.

  seriously tho, both seat and lid should be put down because it is a saftey hazard for small children/toddlers (as well as some small pets.) just like buckets with just a few inches of water can kill babies/small children. children do not have the balance nor the ability to pull themselves out the toilet/bucket if they should fall in. so please make sure to keep both seat and lid down regardless.

  and if its just you and your SO, well then, go out and buy one of those lights that stays on if the seat is up...the only way to shut it is if they put the seat down. then theres no more fanny washes for the ladies.

  oh, and, a relative of mine once was going to the bathroom in mid of night. could hear strange squeeking noise. a rat had climbed thru the pipes up and into the toilet bowl. good thing seat and lid were down. she decided to hold it for the rest of the night. i would have too.

  food for thought.

  Kat
  Wounded Heart

  Love by giving to & accepting others unconditionally = true, pure love

  "When in doubt, do the loving thing." ~ 8yr old "Pirate"
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  Giving Up Smoking

  by ballistic in

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  i'm giving up smoking on the 22nd.

  it will be the third time, but this time as part of a government sponsored training course with drugs and patches supplied etc.

  anyone else given up and got any helpfull advise?.

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  Wounded Heart

  hey ballistic!

  good job! just found this post. wanted to add my 2 cents worth. ive read that coffee (i think its more than just the caffine) should be stopped too until you are past the rough times. theres some chemical reaction between the nicotine and the caffine and whatever else and can make it hard to quit. so if you drink coffee its best to give that up for a short while. as well as any caffinated drinks. just to be safe. and as someone mentioned, drink lots of water. actually, if at all possible, double your water consumtion. but be ware of your potassium levels. cause when you flush out your system you can lose alot of potassium. you might want to take a supplement or just increase your potatoe/banana/ect intake. you will know that your potassium is off if you have mental fatigue and difficulty concentrating. i talk of personal experience of potassium level problems. DISCLAIMER: im not a doc or anything like that. just someone whos friends have been thru stuff like this.

  sending positive thinking and strength your way to help you thru this! you can do this!

  Kat
  Wounded Heart

  Love by giving to & accepting others unconditionally = true, pure love

  "When in doubt, do the loving thing." ~ 8yr old "Pirate"
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  Favorite pop/soda/soft drink

  by larc in

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  well ladies and laddies,.

  my favs are root bear and ginger ale.

  however, only vernor's ginger ale - by far the best.

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  Wounded Heart

  hey larc, how you doing? good to be posting on one of your threads. havent really been posting much myself...mostly just reading and trying to keep up with all that goes on here. that in itself is a job and a half! lol. hope you are doing well. :::smile::: now, as for your question....

  hmmm, youd think this would be easy but....being DID(MPD) kinda makes it a lil' more difficult.

  Citra is awesome.

  store brand cola (somehow just better than Coke or Pepsi)

  Orange n Grape n very rarely Strawberry for the inside lils/kids

  but overall, we are currently really into flavored Seltzer Water. Polar or store brand. doesnt really matter much which one. we esp like lime flavored.

  oh, and occassionally, we like IBC Cream Soda or Root Beer! ICE COLD! very very refreshing!

  and our all time favorite to drink is just good old fashion water! nothing like it.

  man am i ever feeling thirsty! lol.

  Kat
  Wounded Heart

  Love by giving to & accepting others unconditionally = true, pure love

  "When in doubt, do the loving thing." ~ 8yr old "Pirate"
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  We're not wrong, right?.............

  by flower in

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  suddenly i am hit with this overwhelming feeling that we are wrong and that there are logical explanations for all of the things that dont make sense.

  aaaah.

  this is awful.

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  Wounded Heart

  Flower and everyone who has taken the time to share their thoughts,

  thank each and every one of you!!!! this is just what i needed! words cannot convey the feelings and the surety that i have felt just from reading this thread. for those that are not familiar with my story, i am DID (used to be called MPD). because of the multiplicity, there is a constant struggle within about our decision to not be part of jwdom. there are still some within that feel that we are making a mistake in leaving. but we are feeling more confident about our decision. you all just have made so much sense. the hipocrasy is just too much to handle and thats why we left (our bio has the link to where we posted our story). its our father that makes us doubt ourselves. not that hes a biblethumper. just that hes old and alone and still holds on despite the fact they treat him like shytt. but reading your responses and feelings and LOGIC has really helped alot. thank you for taking the time to share what you have. its just the dose of REALITY i needed. thank you. thank you so much.

  Kat
  Wounded Heart

  Love by giving to & accepting others unconditionally = true, pure love

  "When in doubt, do the loving thing." ~ 8yr old "Pirate"
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  Public Indecency/Streaking

  by rhett in

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  ok, who here has removed their clothing in a public enviroment in hopes of exposing themself in one way or another?.

  i don't need to fight.

  to prove i'm right.

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  Wounded Heart

  i probably shouldnt but im gonna share my "public indecency". tho very few end up actually seeing me. i have this habit ive aquired. there is a stretch of state highway that doesnt have street lights. its aprox a 20-30min stretch. the only lights are from the cars and the tractor trailers. well, whenever im on my way home from my friends' house i take off my shirt and bra and go, all-natural until it hits the lighted area again. the best time is winter time. i turn up the heat full blast and put a few windows down...between the temp and the speed of the car...well, the feeling is very, um, exciting to say the least. i guess its just my rebellous side showing? lol. im hooked on doing it too. but this is my only experience so far. i am still waiting to skinny dip. just havent had the right conditions yet. but it WILL happen.

  Kat
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  Bronchitis......Does anyone here

  by WildHorses in

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  know what i can take to stop the burning sensation i have in my chest?.

  i have had a cold for the past few days and woke up this morning feeling just awful.

  i went to the hospital and they said i have bronchitis.

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  Wounded Heart

  hey Lilacs,

  as a chronic bronchitis sufferer i certainly understand where you are coming from. all the suggestions youve received are very helpful. the only thing i can add is this....

  you MUST massage your cough muscle. 1st to find it. the total area is aprox 5" across the chest, from just under your neck, to just above your breasts. it is slightly to both the left and right sides of your neck. with either your knuckles or your fingertips of your right hand, gently massage the area back and forth for aprox 1-2 minutes. you will KNOW youve got the right spot cause it WILL hurt. its quite sore from all the coughing. massaging this area is very important and will help you with breathing as well as coughing.

  ive been a little vaguer than i normally would have as to its location since its been a while since ive had a cold (gratefully). and just as a disclaimer: I AM NOT A DOCTOR. ive just had a lot of experience.

  hope you are feeling better real soon,

  Kat
  Wounded Heart

  Love by giving to & accepting others unconditionally = true, pure love

  "When in doubt, do the loving thing." ~ 8yr old "Pirate"
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  AN INFAMOUS "GYN" VISIT

  by Trotafox in

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  true story from a girl at work about her sister.

  honest to god.. her sister was in a frantic rush one day trying to get out of the office to get to her yearly gynecologist exam on time.

  she rushed home, didnt have time to take a shower so she just took a sink bath and sprayed on some fds spray (for all males out there, that is feminine deoderant spray).

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  Wounded Heart

  just think closer....the possiblilities are endless! theres glow in the dark, black light paint, glitter, etc! LOL your comment made me laugh! just what i needed! thanks!

  Kat
  Wounded Heart

  Love by giving to & accepting others unconditionally = true, pure love

  "When in doubt, do the loving thing." ~ 8yr old "Pirate"
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  Starting Over

  by larc in

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  brothers and sisters,.

  i think about what it must feel like for a blind man from birth to be given the miracle of sight through a new treatment.

  what a wonderful experience that must be!.

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  Wounded Heart

  hey Andi.....

  just wanted to say that i love your tatoo and the idea "behind" it! the meaning, etc. thats excellent! im thinking of getting a tatoo. i like how yours has extra meaning. thanks for getting my ideas flowing!

  Kat
  Wounded Heart

  Love by giving to & accepting others unconditionally = true, pure love

  "When in doubt, do the loving thing." ~ 8yr old "Pirate"
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  I may have made a bad mistake

  by Eyebrow in

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  an old friend of the family stopped by my house last night.

  i had not seen him for about two years.

  he was disfellowhispped about 3 or 4 years ago, but would drop in every now and ask me business related questions.

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  Wounded Heart

  hey Eyebrow....beautiful baby!!!

  i too would say to be cautious. 16yrs ago when my brother was 14, and NOT baptised, he was pulled into fishbowl cause of what a studying mom's daughter reported about him--seeing him at a party where there was drinking. they went to school together. she was the only one who reported him. we were the only witness kids in the high school at that time. so just 1 worldly person ratting out a jw. we got the bookstudy pulled from our house at the time. he has been bitter (for many reasons but mainly this reason) since then. its something that may never heal for him. another victim of the Borg. my sugestion would be to claim a weak moment if cornered. claim depression and/or anxiety. ive faded away with those two. course i have severe cases of both (among other things) LOL. i would probably throw in a good hard "trying to remember look/silence" and manage to come up blank as to ever having uttered "those apostate thoughts!". just my thoughts. i personally dont want to lose the jw family i have. my dad being the most important. all other jw family are just "see once a year, email occasionally" status. still, when we do visit, we visit with my dad and dont wish to make it difficult for him. anyway, sending good thoughts and wishes your way. i semi-envy you of your moving in that you will have freedom of living so freely. enjoy that! and i look forward to hearing about your 1st christmas tree next year when the 3 of you get to celebrate so freely. you are just gonna love it!!!

  MERRY CHRISTMAS and HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!

  Kat
  Wounded Heart

  Love by giving to & accepting others unconditionally = true, pure love

  "When in doubt, do the loving thing." ~ 8yr old "Pirate"